Single Mother in Nigeria: A Guide on How To Thrive

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Being a single mother in Nigeria is no easy feat. Between financial struggles, societal stigma, and the emotional toll of raising children alone, many women feel overwhelmed. Nonetheless, the fact remains that women are a very powerful and special gender; hence, they are stronger than they usually credit themselves. In Nigeria, over 12% of households are led by single mothers (UNICEF). Whether you are divorced, widowed, or choose to raise your child alone, this guide will help you navigate financial stress, emotional battles, and societal pressures without breaking the bank.

1. Financial Survival Strategies for Single Mothers: More women in Nigeria have not embraced digital skills like their counterparts in other parts of the world because of factors such as irregular power supply. Therefore, to boost income, those with access to regular power should learn digital skills in freelancing. Platforms like Upwork and Fiverr allow you to earn from skills like writing, graphic design, or virtual assistance.
Many Nigerian single moms make extra income by selling snacks, beads, or homemade skincare products; They may also start a small POS business, hair salon, or thrift clothing store with minimal capital. e.g. a single mom in Warrake, Owan East Local Government Area of Edo State started baking chin-chin at home. She now supplies those in dire need of it."

2. Support from Government and Non-Governmental Organisations:  In some states, some microfinance institutions offer low-interest loans for female entrepreneurs. However, it has become difficult for many single mothers to access soft loans because the criteria for collecting these loans have become tedious to these women.

2. Emotional and Mental Health Support: Single mothers can build a support system or join support groups, social organisations, and even religious organisations where they can feel welcomed and accepted into the group without being judged or looked down upon. e.g. "After her husband’s death, Miss A joined a support group at her local church. Sharing her struggles helped her heal."

3. Affordable Childcare Solutions: negotiation of child support legally through family courts. Some NGO's offer free legal advice for single mothers. Finding a cheap daycare centre for the child sure helps, while teaming up with other moms to take turns watching their children.
Church/Mosque Support: Some religious centres offer free childcare during services.
Schooling on a budget should also be considered

4. Dealing with Societal Stigma: In dealing with the stigma, single mothers can draw inspiration from 
Hagar’s Story in the bible in Genesis 21. God provided for a single mother in the wilderness; therefore He will provide for you, too.
Success Stories: "Tara Fela-Durotoye built a billion-naira business as a single mom."

5. Response to Negative Comments: Single mothers should always respond positively when communicating with others in society. .e.g. "I’m doing my best, and that’s enough.""My child is loved and well taken care of; judgment is unnecessary."

Finally, Single motherhood is tough, but you are raising resilient, loved children. Every small win counts. Celebrate them.

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