How to Heal from Heartbreak: A Guide Supported by Science for Quicker Recovery

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Heartbreak affects not only your feelings but also your body. Research indicates that being rejected in love triggers the same areas in the brain that experience physical discomfort (Nature Neuroscience, 2011). 
Most heart broken persons experience withdrawal. This is caused by the absence of oxytocin, known as the "love hormone." The love hormone is something the human brain misses which is usually made available when having a healthy relationship hence, it's absence results in the feeling of rejection.
Romantic relationships influence how we see ourselves; ending one can feel like losing a piece of oneself. This results in endless thinking as the constant replaying of the beautiful moments and thoughts keeps you in a cycle of sadness.
Let's walk through it using this scientifically proven seven steps, together.

Firstly, healing starts when you stop waiting for an apology. Expecting no apology from your ex and acknowledging the breakup along with it's hurt is very important in the healing process. There is absolutely no need to hide your grief, or pain, so dear, please speak out. This is because trying hard to ignore the feelings can make ones grief last longer (Journal of Personality and Social Psychology).  
You can start by composing and sending a text or "letter to your ex" using powerful words such as "This is hard, but I will pull through."
Secondly, after the text, I suggest you stop communication (For a While) , just cut yourself some slack from some calls and messages for about 30 to 60 days. This will help you to reset your emotional ties. Importantly, if you have children, colleagues or shared belonging, try to keep your discussions as brief or professional as possible.
Thirdly, simply find yourself. You can do this by jotting down five activities you enjoyed before the relationship. Bring them back into your life, embrace them from within. For instance, visiting new places, pursuing art, or working out will be of immense help.
Fourthly, apply the "5-minute Rule" to avoid overthinking. For instance, you can give yourself five minutes each day to be sad, then shift your focus to a hobby.  
This is because breaking the cycle of negative thinking can lessen depression (Cognitive Therapy Research).
Also pal, get moving please (even if It’s not fun). This is because physical activity releases endorphins, which help fight sadness. And oh! I have to add this, a daily brisk walk for ten minutes can lift your spirits in ways you usually take for granted.

Furthermore, the practice of positive reappraisal can be very helpful. This can be done by carrying out reflection such as: "What lessons did I learn from this relationship?" This will enable you to become aware of your limits in love."

Finally, please reach out for Support (But Steer Clear of Toxic Positivity). Share your feelings with "genuine" friends who will listen without saying, "Just get over it!"  
Avoid isolating yourself or drinking excessively (alcohol can worsen feelings of sorrow).  

My Candid Advice is simple, imagine breakup as a growth opportunity, think of heartbreak as a chance for renewal, rather than the end. Many discover their true purpose in life after a breakup—you could too.

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